Contemplating Cornstarch

Cornstarch is a wonderfully useful ingredient for thickening things like gravy, puddings, etc.  However, if not used correctly, it can result in an inferior product.  To work properly, cornstarch needs to be mixed with a cold liquid to make a slurry.  It is then added to the hot liquid where the starch molecules swell and thicken the mixture.  If cornstarch is added directly to the hot mixture, it causes lumps. Some of the lumps can be eliminated with some work, but it’s much easier to do it right to begin with.

Our relationship with God is like that sometimes.  It seems like we wait until we’re in hot water to call on Him for help.  Then we wonder why it’s still tough. He has to work on us more “vigorously” to get us to the point where we need to be. But, if we worship and commune with Him when life seems cool and easy, when the tough times come…and they will…it can result in an even better relationship with Him.  Don’t wait until things get rough to establish a relationship with God. Start when things are a little calmer.  The results will be much better.

Waiting

I’m not a very patient person at times. I should pause here to allow those who know and love me to nod their heads in agreement. Now don’t get me wrong, when it comes to working with people I have patience, at least I think and hope so, but when there is something that I want to happen, I become very impatient. To quote my favorite movie, The Princess Bride, “I hate waiting.” 

This became more apparent as I demonstrated making pancakes to one of my classes. These were no “out of the box” pancakes. No, these were pumpkin pancakes. Pumpkin is one of those foods that can conjure up a plethora of memories and take me to times, places, and people that have brought me joy. To wait for these pancakes to be ready to eat is pure torture. My impatient nature sometimes results in a less than perfect pancake. 

One step in the making of pumpkin pancakes is beating egg whites to a stiff peak. The heaviness of the pumpkin requires the lightness of beaten egg whites to make a good texture. A culinary fact is that eggs separate best when they are cold, but beat best when they are room temperature. So the process goes like this. Take the eggs out of the refrigerator, separate the yolks from the whites, cover them, and you guessed it; wait. It’s only for about 20 minutes, but it’s still waiting. 


Once the waiting is over, it’s time to turn the somewhat useless egg whites into something that makes all the difference in the pancake. Making sure not to use anything plastic, (it’s a petroleum product and will result in the egg whites not reaching full volume) start beating the egg whites. You can use a variety of tools, but I have found that a wire whisk works the best. Keep beating, and beating and beating. It’s not ready until when you lift the whisk out of the bowl the egg whites are peaks that do not bend over at the tip. It may seem like your arm is going to fall off before you get to this stage, but trust me, it’s worth the effort and the wait. Rushing this part of the process, results in less than desirable pumpkin pancake and it would be a shame to not strive for perfection in something so amazing. 


There are times that the only way for God to accomplish His work in us is to separate us from things. They may be comforts, people, or situations. These don’t necessarily have to be negative things in our lives, but in God’s wisdom He can see exactly what we need and where we need to grow. It may be painful and it may make us reevaluate what our life is about, but if we allow God to completely transform us, we will reach our full ”volume” which results in something that can make the difference in a world filled with heaviness. 

In my impatience with flipping pancakes, I tend to end up with at least a few pancakes that can’t be eaten. They’re pale and doughy in the middle. As a young cook, I learned the hard way that turning up the heat doesn’t help. It just results in the right doneness on the outside, but still doughy in the middle. From the outside it appears that everything is as it should be, but when you get to the heart of the matter, there’s still work to be done. 

I get impatient with God at times. I think I know what should be happening and it boggles my mind why God chooses not to snap His all-powerful fingers and make it happen. I once shared my questioning of God’s timing with a friend and he responded with, “The only thing I can say is I expect God is wanting you to learn something from Him.” That wasn’t exactly what I wanted to hear at the time, but in retrospect, he was probably right. The problem is that I even get impatient with my impatience. If God is trying to teach me something, let’s get on with it and go on to better things. Fortunately, He knows how things should go so I don’t end up “doughy in the middle”. He knows the exact moment that His will should be revealed and when we take our lives into our own hands or become reluctant to wait for what He has for us, we usually mess things up and end up not having what He wanted for us from the beginning. God always answers our prayers. Sometimes, He says, ”Yes.” Sometimes, He says, “No.” Sometimes, He says, “Wait.” I hate that part, but I am learning that it’s necessary. 

God’s timing and our timing are rarely the same. He sees the big picture and knows that sometimes, it is only through waiting that we can become what He wants us to be. It is sometimes only through waiting that we can have what He wants for us; the very best. When it gets hard to wait, remember that God doesn’t want heavy, dense pancakes that are doughy in the middle. He wants pancakes that are pleasing in texture and flavor that comes only from waiting.

You are invited

You are invited to a sumptuous feast. The menu has been planned specifically for your benefit and enjoyment. Your host will see to your every need and will dine with you as long as you wish.” Doesn’t that sound wonderful? Now imagine that you arrive at the feast with your own flatware. It’s no ordinary flatware. You grabbed the best that you had. It’s neatly packaged and comes complete with its own napkin and possibly a hand-wipe. Upon your arrival, your host questions why you felt it necessary to provide your own utensils. You are quick to explain that while you were sure that they could provide an excellent meal, you doubted their ability to see to the details and took it upon yourself to take charge of the situation. You proudly show them the multi-use utensil that is a combination of a fork and spoon. Surely, this is better than anything the host could provide. Your host respects your choice and watches as you struggle to eat the food that has been so carefully prepared. There are some foods that you can’t eat because you refuse to use what your host has for you. After all, you know what you’re doing.
While this situation may seem ridiculous, it is essentially what we do with God all too often. God has invited us to take part in a glorious life. Everything has been carefully planned and while we may not know or understand everything that happens, we can be assured that He has everything under control. Even with that assurance, we mistakenly show up thinking that we need to help God out. We profess to know that God can take care of the big issues in our lives, but fail to recognize that He has every detail taken care of also. We show up with our less than ideal notions of how things should be and end up missing some of the greatest blessings that He has waiting for us. We say that we give Him complete control and then turn around and put limitations on how He can accomplish His plan. Whether it’s a dollar, a mile, or a minute, every time we take it upon ourselves to stipulate how God can bless us, we rob ourselves of what is waiting for us.
You are invited to a sumptuous feast, but don’t worry. He’ll provide flatware

Recipe for Success in 2011

I know that it's a stretch to make this post fit the food theme, but as I laid awake last night, I started to think about challenges that I could offer for 2011.  This is what came to my mind.

Don’t pray about things

There are things that the Bible is very clear about not doing.  God gave us the Top 10 list, but there are other mandates that He was also very clear about. These are things that we shouldn’t be praying about.  God has already been very clear.  It would be like a child asking permission to do something that a parent has already said, “No”, to.  There’s really no point.  God isn’t going to change His mind on those issues.  It would seem silly to pray, “God, I’m thinking about murdering someone.  I really need you to give me wisdom about Your will for this area of my life.”  Do you think God ever wants to just say, ”Duh”?  It is equally as silly to ask God’s wisdom and guidance for questions such as “I don’t feel like I want to be married anymore.  Is it ok if I get a divorce?”  “ I know that the person I am in love with isn’t a Christian, is it ok if I continue dating them anyway?”  “It would be more convenient if my boyfriend/girlfriend and I lived together.  Is that ok with you, God?”  “I really don’t feel like going to church.  God, are You ok with me just staying home again this week?”  God is pretty clear on issues like this.  You really don’t need to pray about it.  God has already given you His answer.

Complain about your life a lot on Facebook

We all have struggles.  We all have things in our lives that we wish were different.  Let me be really subtle here.  If you don’t like your circumstance, change them.  If you can’t change your circumstances, change your attitude.  My challenge for your Facebook complaints is for every time you complain about your job, your spouse, your finances, etc., post two things that are positive about your life.  I think you will be surprised at how quickly your attitude changes.

Let go of people who you love

There are two different aspects of this challenge.  One is looking honestly at the relationships that you are in and determining whether or not they are healthy and God-honored.  This can be very difficult because our emotions have a tendency to override our sense of what constitutes healthy and God-honored.  I’m not just talking about dating relationships.  Friendships also need to be examined.  There comes a time when you have to let go, even though it’s hard.  Relationships of any kind are not meant to be one-sided, with only one person making an effort, or resulting in other relationships being cast aside.  Love of any kind should be an addition to existing relationships, not result in their exclusion.  As difficult as it may be, it may be time to let go of some of the people that you love.

The other aspect of this challenge is to let go of people that you love and give them to God.  There are people that will be in our lives forever, no matter what happens.  It’s hard when those people are struggling and you feel powerless to help them.  Let go of those people and give them to God.  He knows exactly what they need and will work in their lives.  What He allows to transpire in their lives to get their attention may be very difficult to watch, but continually take them to the throne of God and let Him handle it.

Talk about people behind their back

I really don’t like to hear people talk negatively about my administration.  It’s easy to sit in a place where you don’t know all the facts about a situation and make comments that are neither true nor helpful.  I figure that if you have a legitimate and helpful suggestion, go to that person and offer your help.  If not, keep your mouth closed. This needs to also apply to other areas.  There are times that discussion about an issue are necessary in order to try to help, but the attitude in which that discussion takes place is key to determining whether or not the discussion should be taking place.  If the attitude is one that revels in cutting a person apart with no attempt at trying to solve the problem, then the only person you should be talking about that person with is God.  It’s ok to talk behind their back to Him.

Stay in a relationship with someone who is trying to control you

Every year, I do a series of lessons about dating violence.  One of the areas that I stress is the level of control that a person has over your life.  If a person is telling you who you can hang out with and when, who you can and cannot talk to, where you can go and what you can do with your life, it is not a healthy relationship…cut and dried.  It makes me very sad to realize the number of people, regardless of age, that mistake this control as love or see it as “normal” in a relationship.  The only one that should have that level of control is God.  Stay in that relationship.

Put yourself in situation where your heart will get broken

Heartbreak is difficult and we try to avoid it, when possible, but I don’t think that we should.  There are times that heartbreak is the catalyst for change.

Bob Pierce, a Youth for Christ evangelist, wrote these words in the flyleaf of his Bible, "Let my heart be broken with the things that break the heart of God."   Ask God to show you what breaks his heart.  Let those same things break your heart and be the motivation for how you live your life.  

Dirty Dishes

I don’t like doing dishes.  I was married to someone who did.  I guess we made a good match.  I never understood how my husband could like doing dishes…until tonight.

 For the past few days, all of my kids and grandkids have been home. Everyone, except for Justin and Allison, has stayed at my house.  That means 5 kids, 4 daughters-in-law, 1 son’s girlfriend, 6 grandchildren and myself are all under one roof.  That translates into a lot of food and a lot of dishes.  Today, after opening presents, my children spent the day with other family members.  I spent the afternoon cleaning up and catching up on dishes.  As I washed, my mind went back to a sign that always hung in my grandma’s kitchen. It said, “Thank God for dirty dishes.  They have a tale to tell.  While other folks go hungry, we’re eating very well.”  Even though I have to admit I wasn’t thinking about people who may be wondering where their next meal was coming from, I was thinking about the blessing that the dishes represented.  I had a house full of people that I love and the sound of children’s laughter filling the air.  I got to watch my children work together, play together, laugh together and love each other.  My granddaughter prayed for me to feel better when I fell victim to the bug that was being passed around the family.  The untouched snow that once filled my yard now shows evidence of children, big and small, playing.  There are toys everywhere you look, a mountain of towels that are waiting to be washed, a package of baby wipes waiting for the next diaper change, fingerprints and hidden crackers that I’m sure will be discovered for weeks to come. 

Yes, the dishes have a tale to tell.  They tell me that my family is home and that’s the best tale that I can think of.  Maybe my husband was on to something.  Maybe he knew the story that dirty dishes told.

Candy Cane Cookies

It’s that time of the year.  It’s time for us to celebrate the birth of Jesus.  There are many different ways that people choose to recognize the significance of this time of year.  It may be giving gifts to those they care about.  It may be putting up a tree that may symbolize us reaching to heaven or life’s triumph over death.  The common traditions are observed by people all over the world. However, each family often develops its own traditions that bring the holiday new meaning.   One of the traditions that has been a part of my children’s lives and now mine, is making candy cane cookies.  These cookies feature a sugar cookie dough that been divided into 2 parts.  One part is flavored and the other is colored red and flavored.  Small ropes of the dough are twisted into the candy cane form and baked.  The candy cane has a history of religious symbolism.  The color, the shape, and the stripes all served to remind people of the true meaning of Christmas… the gift of Jesus.

I have to admit that the cookies are quite tasty, but they are so much more.  The candy cane cookies represent the life that my children had before they knew me.  I believe that making the candy cane cookies was an activity that my children shared with their mother throughout their childhood.  Now, for my children, the candy cane cookies take them to a time and place when their mother was with them and what a wonderful person she was.  A cookie serves to ground them in the rich heritage of knowing God personally.  The cookie certainly represents the gift of Jesus Christ, but it also represents the gift that Kathy gave to me…her children.  Yeah, it’s just a cookie, but every time I taste one, I say a silent  ”Thank you” to God for the gift of Jesus Christ and “Thank you” to Kathy for the gifts of Bob, Jeramy, Andy, Corey, and Crystal.

Lessons from a cow

In a couple of days, my Foods classes will finish up their unit on beef.  One of the things that I impress on the students is that it is important to know what part of the animal  a cut comes from and what those muscles do. A basic rule is that pieces of meat from the loin and the rib are tender and everything else is not so tender.  The reason that the rib and loin are tender is that they are muscles of suspension.  They pretty much just hang around.  Other muscles are muscles of locomotion and do the work which makes them tougher.  During the cooking process, muscles of suspension can handle a dry heat and a higher temperature without getting tough.  Locomotion muscles need either a precooking process such as marinating, grinding, pounding, or cubing in order to handle dry heat.  Otherwise, they require a moist heat method of cooking such as braising or stewing.

As we walk with God, the more we “hang around” Him, the more we remain tender.  When the heat is applied, we can handle it and become more usable.  When we start trying to do things our own way or run from the things that God wants for us, we become tough and it takes more work and longer time to make us usable again.

Hang out with God.  Be tender to how He wants to use you.  Avoid the pain that often occurs in the tenderizing process.